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From: Moreen
Sent: Monday, August 30, 1999 9:15 PM
Subject: " I am finally getting OUT!"


Dr. Irene,
I found you articles about verbal abuse on the web and it was like reading my life story.  I have been married for l9 years to a man who is like three personalities.  You have the church person and the wonderful man everyone else sees.  Then you have the mood swinging person, either high or low.  Very controlling.  

I have been put down so much, I'm having to work hard at finding who I am.  My boys l5, and l0 both are the reason I am leaving. They told me I had to get him out of the house.  I was so unhappy and they  both said he treated me horrible!  Go see a lawyer they said.  So I finally did and it shocked him to death.  He tried the suicide threat.  Tried getting me to go to counseling,,, which we have twice over the years,,, it works for a while, then back to the old same old routine.  

I don't have sense enough to clean the house the way he wants... Don't have sex enough,,,,even if it is every night.  If I tick him off,,, he says I will pay l0 times worse over making him mad.  He makes the money,,, I have to do what he says, when he says and how he says.  I have no rights.  It is so strange.  Now he calls crying and acting like the most wonderful man.  He said I am right and I deserve it all.  He then turns and blames me for it all, but then says he doesn't blame me.

For years I have felt like I was crazy,,,,damned if I do and damned if I don't.  I ran copies of your site off the web and highlighted what was real in my life,,,,just about it all.  I was shocked at how brain washed I have been..  I have refused to take any calls from him anymore.  He can talk to our sons. I refuse to talk to him because I know how I was and will listen and believe the lies....again.

My youngest son tells me now we have peace in the house.  That just says it all.  My oldest said he hasn't seen me this happy in years.  I have my moments, but thanks to your article,,, I can keep on hand to remind me not to go back.
Thanks again for helping me see the light,  -Moreen

Dear Moreen,

Wow! What a story...
Thank you for your kind feedback. Its what makes all the web work so worthwhile...
God Bless you and good luck,

Dr. Irene

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