From: Moreen
Sent: Monday, August 30, 1999 9:15 PM
Subject: " I am finally getting OUT!"
Dr. Irene,
I found you articles about verbal abuse on the web and it was like reading
my life story. I have been married for l9 years to a man who is like
three personalities. You have the church person and the wonderful
man everyone else sees. Then you have the mood swinging person,
either high or low. Very controlling.
I have been put down so much, I'm
having to work hard at finding who I am. My boys l5, and l0 both are
the reason I am leaving. They told me I had to get him out of the house.
I was so unhappy and they both said he treated me horrible! Go
see a lawyer they said. So I finally did and it shocked him to
death. He tried the suicide threat. Tried getting me to go to
counseling,,, which we have twice over the years,,, it works for a while,
then back to the old same old routine.
I don't have sense enough to clean
the house the way he wants... Don't have sex enough,,,,even if it is every
night. If I tick him off,,, he says I will pay l0 times worse over
making him mad. He makes the money,,, I have to do what he says,
when he says and how he says. I have no rights. It is so
strange. Now he calls crying and acting like the most wonderful man.
He said I am right and I deserve it all. He then turns and blames me
for it all, but then says he doesn't blame me.
For years I have felt like I was
crazy,,,,damned if I do and damned if I don't. I ran copies of your
site off the web and highlighted what was real in my life,,,,just about it
all. I was shocked at how brain washed I have been.. I have
refused to take any calls from him anymore. He can talk to our sons.
I refuse to talk to him because I know how I was and will listen and
believe the lies....again.
My youngest son tells me now we
have peace in the house. That just says it all. My oldest said
he hasn't seen me this happy in years. I have my moments, but thanks
to your article,,, I can keep on hand to remind me not to go back.
Thanks again for helping me see the light, -Moreen
Dear Moreen,
Wow! What a story...
Thank you for your kind feedback. Its what makes all the web work so
worthwhile...
God Bless you and good luck,
Dr. Irene |
