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The
Administrative Team (AdminTeam) may update this
policy at any time.
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We are here
to promote
personal
responsibility
and
self-control
in the
service of
learning
the skills
we need to
deal with
abuse.
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We are here
to
celebrate
our
differences,
To learn to
detach
instead of
try to
control,
and to
agree to
disagree.
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We are here
to
celebrate
self-respect
and respect
for other
at all
times.
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Members are
encouraged
to embrace
taking
responsibility
for their
own
emotional
and mental
health. One
of the
central
values of
this board
is the
fostering
of personal
responsibility
and
autonomy.
We
encourage:
Respectful
posting in
general.
Respectful
posting of
differences
in
opinion/individuality
Privacy:
what is
said in
this forum
*stays* in
this forum
Posting
that
supports
each other
Celebration
of the
diversity
of each
member
Good
natured
levity can
disarm the
most heated
debate and
is
encouraged
There is
zero
tolerence
for
disrepectful
posting,
discrimination-based
oposting of
any kind.
Note: Free
speech is
not an
excuse for
irresponsible
behavior.
Material
posted on
this site
is not to
be
posted/copied/etc.
elewhere,
except by
the author
of the
post.
Respect
copyright.
Administrators
have the
right to
retain,
invisible,
delete,
edit posts,
lock
threads,
etc. for
any reason
they deem
fit.
Administrators
may ban a
poster for
any reason
without
explanation.
Posted
material
becomes the
property of
this site.
Public
flaming,
contentious,
disruptive
posting,
libelous
posting,
profanity,
public
admin
challenges,
reposting
admin-deleted
posts are
not
tolerated.
Multiple
personas,
banned
accounts
returning
as a new
persona,
impersonation
of a member
are all
strictly
prohibited.
Advertising,
commercially-related
or
competing
products
are all
forbidden
in any
relation to
your
account.
You
may not
advertise
or link to
other
forums,
products,
or
materials
in your
posts,
pm's,
profiles,
etc.
without the
express
permission
of the
admin team.
Any poster
deemed to
be here
purely to
create
disruption,
or post
spurious
posts will
be banned
immediately.
Additional
measures,
such as pm
monitoring,
may be
taken by
the owner
without
warning.
You
must be 18
and over to
participate.
Feel free
to "flag"
questionable
posts and
bring them
to the
attention
of the
Administrators.
Posts and
threads
will be
regularly
pruned to
reduce size
and clutter
without
warning.
You are
responsible
to
regularly
download
material
you may
wish to
keep.
Good
Communications
Tips
If you
need to
send a
tough
message and
you are
worried
about how
it may be
perceived -
Write it,
then read
it
carefully.
Look at the
content,
watch for
particularly
emotional
words that
may
trigger. If
necessary,
get someone
else to
read it as
well.
Respond
in much the
same
manner. If
you're on
the
receiving
end of what
you
consider a
personally
offensive
or
triggering
post, be
careful
about any
immediate
reaction
that will
only
inflame
matters.
Carefully
compose a
response in
a word
processor
or on a
sheet of
paper to
avoid
impulsively
posting a
reply. Give
it 24
hours; look
over what
you wrote.
Is what
you're
saying
useful, or
is it an
angry rant
that may
violate
policy?
To
paraphrase
Soren
Kierkegaard:
"People
demand
freedom of
speech as
compensation
for the
freedom of
thought
which they
should have
used in the
first
place."
You
don't have
to respond.
Just
because you
got a nasty
message
doesn't
mean you
must
respond in
kind. If
you feel
comfortable,
privately
contact the
person via
email or
PM. If the
post is
particularly
obnoxious,
don't
respond,
but report
it to
admin. Let
us handle
it.
Disengaging
is a
wonderful
tool to
learn to
choose when
and how to
do it, ton
a message
board or in
our every
day lives.
If you
have
knowingly
or
unknowingly
irritated
someone,
say you're
sorry. As
well-intentioned
as we are,
we're
Human. We
can mess
up. We hate
hurtful
posts, but
even the
best of us
will send
them out
from time
to time.
Apologize!
Remember:
you can go
to the
person you
hurt and
say, "I'm
sorry". It
often isn't
an easy
thing to
do, but can
be critical
in
restoring
peace and
healing
among
members -
and within
yourself.
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