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Yet More Thanks

Yet More Thanks!

May 15, 2000

Dear Dr. Irene,

I just wanted to thank you for your verbal abuse website.  I was searching on the web for help after a particularly bad Mother's Day and Wedding Anniversary with my husband, and I came across this.

I couldn't believe that most of the signs of an abuser relates to my marriage, especially the one where it says he presents a wonderful face to the world and is well liked by outsiders.  I always wondered how he could be so nice and giving to everyone, but me.  I have been confused, hurt, humiliated, and feeling like the way he treated me was my fault.  I know it's not, and it felt good to see it all spelled out right in front of me.

I have blamed myself for 6 years for making stupid and weak decisions in regards to my relationship with my husband.  I had an out, my parents hired an expensive lawyer 2 years ago, and I took the kids and moved out one day while he was at work, but I went back 3 months later.  I know I have no self-esteem and I am scared that I won't be able to make it on my own.  My parents and my brother live in another state, and I really have nowhere else to go.  

Thanks to your website I can now see when he is being manipulating, controlling, and abusive.  I can read the signs, and can go back to the website for advice and help.  Thank you again.

Sincerely, LeLa

Dear LeLa, thank YOU! My very best, Dr. Irene