January 21, 2000
There are not enough words to express
my appreciation for your site. I have been to counselors all of my life
(from 18 to 57). I have married one abusive man after another. My last counselor
gave me the abuse wheel and told me I was in an abusive relationship, and
I would never get what I wanted from this guy.
Oh well, didn't click, I was
bruised, battered, pushed and shoved. I found your site, and found the
verbal abuse explanation and - oh my God!! that's me and my Beloved
enemy. I have been on the e-mail site with
all your devoted people for the last month. As I read and shared, I
began to see where I had been, how I got there, and most important, what I
had to do for ME to change.
Another miracle in my life is Robert
Burney. Practical, spiritual ways for me to set boundaries, love me,
and get some joy out of this thing we call life.
I am seeing some great changes already. I am not expecting Instant. I took
years to form these patterns and I know it will take a while to undo them.
But anything positive seems like a miracle, because I'm not hurting so
badly.
Question: Is there a site for people who leave the abuser? I think I have
outgrown the one where both parties are still together, need feed back and
reinforcement from those who left and are dealing with those issues.
Thank you for the clarity, and support. G
Dear G,
Thank you for
taking the time to write and for the kudos! I agree with you on
Robert. He is an incredible human being who does really great work! (I am
a fan.) In case you did not email him, I
will. I think he would appreciate seeing your note.
As for a site -
after the abuse... Well, I don't know. Let's expand this one!
My very best
wishes, Dr. Irene
