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Tough Love Advice

My Story: Tough Love

"Life can be real rough . . . you can either learn from your 
problems, or keep repeating them over and over."  -Marie Osmond

December 10, 2000

I read some of the entrees and all I can say to all of you is "You'll get tired of all this crap...which it all is.. and then get stronger" You will learn to ignore and fight back. Then when you think its over, you will close your eyes and pray and wake up with new sights and a calmness that will straighten everything else out. 

Keep yourself busy. Teach yourself at home and never forget that you are beautiful inside and out and in the end the people that hurt you will have to live with the guilt of hurting you. Try not to trouble yourself with the dramas and put your faith in God because he does take care of his people. That includes you.

I used to be all of you but now I am me and I'm happy with myself. It took time and I wish I had read this when I was younger. I would have had the strength to get through all this "Shit" But smile because you will get through it. Maybe today you will say "damn it I am someone special and if he/she doesn't see that then that's on them." 

Dress your kids for school, take them to school and breathe a sigh of relief that the day is almost done and you are still a great mother or father" You are special and once you realize that you will see things  sooooooooo differently. Simply because you have made it this far and you're here to continue loving people and mostly yourself. 

Once again. trust me: I was where you are. I am now free. I'm still in a marriage but I have enough strength to ignore and remember that I'm special and so the abuse is almost over. He can't abuse me anymore and now we can work on a healthy relationship. I used to tell him "There is nothing you can do to make me stop loving life." Well, now I don't have to say anything. 

I worked hard but when I think about it, I really had nothing to work on but loving myself. Elizabeth

She's right; can't you just feel her pain...and anger?

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