August 4, 2001
Just want to add my
voice to those of the many folks who are thanking you.
I stumbled onto the Bible for Verbal Abuse -- Ms. Evans book --by
accident six weeks ago and it was revolutionary to read it. (The
Verbally Abusive Relationship.)
Later, after separating from my husband, I found your site and now
go on it every day to get some coaching, advice, moral support and
learn. I am reading two more books and will continue on my journey.
I am a health care advocate for a living -- we haven't tackled the
issue of providing care to the abused yet --we are working on other
issues, but now that I have experienced the trauma myself, I know that
I will eventually work toward improving the health care system for the
poor to include much much much better services for abuse.
Your site is a tremendous resource, well done, helpful, a great
combination of stories, advice, encouragement, accountability...
Thanks so much. All me friends are checking it out, my family... I
don't know about my husband. We haven't had much contact, I am too
topsy turvey, but my guess is that he is still not willing to confront
the struggle inside himself.
It is all so so so sad. I will write about my experience of going
to jail in the near future -- and what I encountered there -- after
reading the Book, two weeks later I lost control and started pummeling
my husband (I WAS MAD) and he called the police, I knew I would go to
jail because I knew the law... I needed a big crisis to force me to
deal with how crazy the situation had gotten. While I was in jail, I
met 14 other women who were there for smacking on their husbands. It
was a very empowering experience... don't worry! I don't want to go
back. It motivated me to action, and now I am on the road to recovery.
Thanks again for your site. It is important work you are doing,
with good cheer, kindness and smarts.