May
27, 2000
Dear Dr. Irene:
I just wanted to take two seconds to thank you. With your help I
have come a long way since I first entered this site. I have posted
anonymously, changing my name every time (I guess I had a weird paranoia..
what can I tell ya, the brain was a little weird when I came on board).
:)
I have posted to Outside
Influences-His Mom, If Only the House
Was Clean and most recently, I am Proud of my
Husband. I think you knew it was me who wrote these in spite of
my tricks of anonymity. At any rate, things still could not be
better. This house is a new house and most recently even friends and
family have commented on how my husband is a new man. You see, his
change isn't just towards me and the kids but with everyone around him
that he is in contact with. It is so nice to see him even just
sitting with my sibs chatting, which was something he never did.
But I owe this all to you because you were the only "therapist" I had!
Following your advise, reading interactive e-mails where you stated what
to do and what not to do put me in the proper thinking mode so that I
could change myself - obviously causing him to change - if he wanted to
continue the marriage. You owe me a tiny,
little bit; you owe "all this" to yourself for having the wisdom
to seek solutions - and then imposing the requisite internal changes that
were necessary for you to apply suggestions you thought were reasonable!
It is so frustrating because I still read the
board and want to just jump right in there and help these people. Go for it! I
know that almost anyone could change with the proper situation because my
husband was very bad. Worse then you can imagine and the complete
change in him is so rewarding.. you will never know. It saddens me
not to be able to help the others...if only they could just get to that
place inside of them where their strength is. It is there, because
otherwise they could not have withstood living in these conditions without
snapping as many have lived this way for years. Yes.
Anyway, whatever you did for me, I will never
forget it. This was the best thing you could have done...putting
this site over the internet. I know I would still be sitting in my
old situation had I never tripped over it way back when. Anyway,
thank you from the bottom of my heart. I wish their was a way I
could give you something back in return. You just did! Not
only do I feel wonderful reading this, but your letter is inspiration to
many others in difficult situations; if you did it, so can they... Take care and I
will still visit regularly as I know I must always keep thinking this way
when married to someone like Bert. It has to be a way of life...Yes! And it's healthy for both of you!...but
at least now it is a good life. Thank you, thank you, thank you... Katia
Wow! Thank you; thank you; thank you!
This is music to my ears! Yippee! Hug, hug.
My very best wishes for your continued success. Dr. Irene
