|February 12, 2000
Thank you for your web site Dr.. I
left my husband two months ago and I can't imagine how lonely and lost I
would feel without this place to come. It is very difficult as it
is. You of all people know about codependency and the identity
crisis that ensues when a woman leaves.
It is Saturday night and as I sit here crying once again, I know that
there is hope. This sadness with time will diminish. I was
only married for one year and it was to the big handsome man of my dreams
(or so I thought). I wanted so much to be one of the lucky ones who
gets help with her husband and has a happy ending but, that is not to be.
Dreams die very hard.
Everything has been made to be my fault. Everything. So many
times I traded my reality for his. I won't do that anymore.
Believe you me, I wish it was all my fault,
because then I could fix it! How's that for codependency!
Thank you again,
Thank You for your
kind words. By the way, your line, the one I highlighted above is
great! Yes, it would be nice if it were all your fault...
My very best
wishes, Dr. Irene
March 6, 2000
Very simply, you have
the best web site of this kind. I've been to countless sites
researching codependency and anger. Your site is exceptional
regarding the anger. You are one of the only people that gives
advice on how to get better and change.
Please keep updating your site.
Thank you, A
March 22, 2000
Thanks for the 3/22
article. The two contrasting interactions really
brings out where we have been in a way that reading the Evans' books and
some of the others didn't. What goes on at my house now is much more
now that my attitude has changed, but it's still the same dynamic.
I was going through a "things aren't so bad anymore why am I so
unhappy" period this week but this article showed me why!
I thank God (and Jeeves, the ask.com butler) for guiding me to this site.
I learn something every day.
With sincere thanks, N
March 29, 2000
Offerings: The Victim's Anger
Very, very well
written. This is the first article on the internet I have
found so far which does not just simply "blast" the person who
behavior. You took the time to explain what happened to the person to
make them act like this.
I never realized it was my inability to express my anger and frustration.
I really liked part "She is unlikely to get a handle on her life and
behavior until she owns her anger and takes responsibility for her
You have given me ideas of how to recognize my behavior when I do it.
(Afterwards unfortunately though for now.)
Now I can recognize the behavior. I look forward to "fixing"
this part of my life. Thank you so much for this information. R
R, And thank YOU so much for writing. Best regards, Dr. Irene