Thursday, March 09, 2000 1:18 PM
Step 1. Safety during violence.
I can use the following options:
a. If I decide to leave, I
See Your Safety Plan.
b. I can keep a bag ready and put it______________________ so I can leave
c. I can tell________________________________about the violence and have
them call the police when violence erupts.
d. I can teach my children to use the telephone to call the police and the
e. I will use this word code________________________________for my
children,friends, or family to call for help.
f. If I have to leave my home, I will
go_________________________________________.(Be prepared even if you think
you will never have to leave.)
g. I can teach these strategies to my children.
h. When an argument erupts, I will move to a safer room such
as___________________________________________________________. See Your
i. I will use my instincts, intuition, and judgement. I will protect
myself and my children until we are out of danger.
Step 2. Safety when getting ready to leave.
I can use the following strategies:
a. I will leave money and an extra set of keys
b. I will keep important documents and keys
c. I will open a savings account by this
date___________________________________ to increase my independence.
d. Other things I can do to increase my independence
e. The domestic violence hotline is _____________________.
f. The shelter's hotline is _________________________.
g. I will keep change for phone calls with me at ALL times. I know that if
I use a telephone credit card, that the following month the telephone bill
will tell the batterer who I called after I left. I will keep this
information confidential by using a prepaid phone card, using a friend's
calling collect, or using change.
h. I will check with_________________________ and ______________________
know who will let me stay with them or who will lend me money.
i. I can leave extra clothes with___________________________.
j. I will review my safety plan every ___________________(time frame) in
order to plan the safest route. I will review the plan with
______________________________ (a friend, counselor or advocate.)
k. I will rehearse the escape plan and practice it with my children.
Step 3. Safety At Home
I can use the following safety methods:
a. I can change the locks on my doors and windows as soon as possible.
b. I can replace wooden doors with steel doors.
c. I can install security systems- i.e. additional locks, window bars,
poles to wedge against doors, electronic sensors, etc.
d. I can purchase rope ladders to be used for escape routes from the
e. I can install smoke detectors and buy fire extinguishers for each floor
of my home.
f. I can install an outside lighting system that lights up when someone
approaches my home.
g. I will teach my children how to use the phone to make collect calls to
me and to ___________________________ (friend, family, minister) if my
partner tried to take them.
h. I will tell the people who care for my children, who has permission to
pick up my children. My partner is NOT allowed to. Inform the following
i. I can tell my the following people that my partner no longer lives with
me and that they should call the police if he is near my residence:
Step 4. Order of Protection
The following steps will help enforce the order of protection:
a. I will keep the protection order______________________(the location).
keep it with you.
b. I will give my protection order to police departments in the areas that
visit my friends, family, where I live, and where I work.
c. If I visit other counties, I will register my protection order with
d. I can call the local domestic violence agency if I am not sure how to
register my protection order with the police departments.
e. I will tell my employer, my church leader, my friends, my family and
others that I have a protection order.
f. If my protection order gets destroyed, I know I can go to the County
Courthouse and get another copy.
g. If my partner violates the protection order, I will call the police and
report it. I will call my lawyer, my advocate, counselor, and/ or tell the
courts about the violation.
h. If the police do not help, I will call my advocate or my attorney AND I
will file a complaint with the Chief of the Police Department.
i. I can file a private criminal complaint with the district judge in the
jurisdiction that the violation took place or with the District Attorney.
domestic violence advocate will help me do this.
Step 5. Job and Public Safety
I can do the following:
a. I can tell my boss, security, and ___________________ at work about
b. I can ask___________________________________ to help screen my phone
c. When leaving work I can do the following:
d. When I am driving home from work and problems arise, I can
e. If I use public transportation, I can
f. I will shop at different grocery stores and shopping malls at different
hours than I did when I was with my partner.
g. I will use a different bank and bank at different hours than I did when
I was with my partner.
h. I can also do the following:
Step 6. Drug and Alcohol Use.
I can enhance my safety if I do the following:
a. If I am going to use, I am going to do it in a safe place with people
who understand the risk of violence and who are committed to my safety.
b. I can also_____________________________________________________________
c. If my partner is using, I can
d. I can also
e. To protect my children, I can
Step 7. Emotional Health
I can do the following:
a. If I feel depressed and ready to return to a potentially violent
situation/ partner, I can
I can call
b. When I have to talk to my partner in person or on the phone, I can
c. I will use "I can..." statements and I will be assertive with
d. I can tell myself
I feel people are trying to control or abuse me.
e. I can call the following people and/ or places for support:
f. Things I can do to make me feel stronger are: