January 11, 2000
Dear Dr. Irene,
Having browsed your GREAT site for
a month or two, I just want to say it is very good. I do appreciate what
you are doing for men and women in bad relationships.
Me....I'm fine. No abuse, physical or otherwise from my husband of 20+
years. If anything I am the world's best co-dependent.
Have come to think my mother, with whom we live with to help care for her,
was very VERY controlling and verbally/emotionally abusive to my two
younger sisters and myself. I am the most compliant...the most
It's hard to say what exactly is going on...not much really. I am a
professional, little league coach, Sunday school teacher, youth group
leader, with 5 teenagers at home, and with a husband almost done with a
I used to write poetry, and FEEL STUFF. Now I feel nothing. or like
I want to escape from ALL OF THEM. And they aren't BAD to me.
I like/liked a book called "Too Good for Her own Good." It
looks at codependence from a bit of a different slant.
Some of us aren't really abused. we are just unhappy and can't really tell
why. Wish I knew.
Thanks anyway. Me
This is not very hard: Passive
aggressive, not feeling stuff, wanting to get away from all of them.
I think you are very angry and
don't want to deal with it.