I have read some of the stories of the others. Many sound like my own. I come from a family that was not too close. My father was not involved very much in my life even though my parents are still married. Even ran away from home as a teenager for a while. I was 14 and was "in love" with someone, 23.
I finally snapped out of that and began dating people my own age. Became pregnant at 17, married, and have been for 16 years. My spouse has an anger problem also. When he becomes angry, he uses many profanities, belittles, and is demeaning. Calls me names like "stupid", "bitch", "ignorant," and says things to purposely hurt me such as not being a good "house cleaner " or "decorator". It is to the point now that he calls one of my children "fat". She is a little overweight but has a learning disability also. However, she is (!) the most loving and caring child out of all of them. She is dyslexic (and the therapist feels as though my husband is also. He had many troubles in school as a child learning; to this day he has extreme test anxiety. Has been at the same job for 17 years because he cannot accept change. He complains that he does not like his job.) He is always on her because she is so "unorganized". He is such a neat freak. Yet he doesn't think about "germs". Things just always have to be in their place. Kids can't play with toys because "they drag out and never put up". He yells at us all about "cleaning" consistently everyday. Why is this so? When do I say enough is enough and leave? We always feel as if we are walking on eggshells when he is around.
On the flip side, he often can be the most loving and caring person;
Sometimes you have to remove yourself from a situation that is turning you into a person you don't like - before your partner becomes motivated to change... Anybody have anything to say to this lady?
I just want to read the posts.