From: KJB
To: <drirene@drirene.com>
Sent: Thursday, April 08
Subject: Message from KJB
Dr.,
I just found your website and enjoyed reading about verbal abuse. My husband of
almost two years seems to fit the description. And I had a counselor we've gone to a
few times tell me today that my situation is very serious. It's a scary
thought....figuring out what to do to. Currently, here's what's happening:
Bad name calling about every day
I'm "stupid, fat, worthless"
Hits in arm that leaves a bruise
Hair pulling, hard
Shoving
Basic emotional distress
I guess it's hard to actually believe a loved one is doing this --- so they aren't
really a loved one are they? This is my day of awakening. I'm not going to
jump to any solutions immediately, but I wanted you to know that your website was
helpful for me. I think I'll order a book on the topic too. And start keeping a very
detailed journal of his behavior. It's easy to think that I'm crazy -- isn't
it? Thank God we don't have children!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You may email me back if
you want, but please be non-specific in case my husband reads it before I do. He
doesn't like me looking up this stuff on the Internet. (imagine that!) AND PLEASE
DON'T JUST REPLY TO THIS MESSAGE, OR IF YOU DO, ERASE WHAT I WROTE!
KJB
Dear KJB,
I hope you see this since I would not dream
of writing back to you. Thank God you woke up. Stop being intimidated by this man. If he
hits you again or pulls your hair or shoves or threatens you, call the police! Press
charges! If you love him, throw him out! (Even if you don't love him, throw him out, but
throw him out especially if you love him.) Why? Well, not only is he hurting you, he is
out of control and is hurting himself. Respect yourself enough to not put up with his
antics and watch what happens...watch him cry to reform and come back into your life! As
crazy as it sounds, like a young child acting out, he needs limits to be imposed. He
cannot impose them himself. At least not yet. Good luck to you and may God bless...
Dr. Irene
