	My good feelings about who I am stem from being liked by you.
	My good feelings about who I am stem from receiving approval from you.
	Your struggles affect my serenity
	My mental attention focuses on solving your problems or relieving your pain.
	My mental attention is focused on pleasing you.
	My mental attention is focused on manipulating you to "do it my way."
	My self-esteem is bolstered by solving your problems.
	My self-esteem is bolstered by relieving your pain.
	My own hobbies and interests are put aside.
	My time is spent sharing your interests and hobbies.
	Your clothing and personal appearance is dictated by my desires as I feel you are a reflection of me.
	I am not aware of how I feel; I am aware of how you feel. I am not aware of what I want; I ask what you want. If I am not aware, I assume.
	The dreams I have for my future are linked to you.
	My fear of rejection determines what I say or do.
	I use giving as a way of feeling safe in our relationship.
	My social circle diminishes as I involve myself with you.
	The quality of my life is in relation to the quality of yours.

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