Just wanted to drop a note and thank you again for your site. I wrote
you back about two years ago when I first recognized that not only was my
father verbally abusive, but I had brought these traits into my marriage
Through your site, as well as counseling, I have shed many of the
negative traits I carried. It hasn't been easy, and there is still work to
do. Every now and then, especially in stressful times, I find myself
starting to revert back to my old behaviors. But the good news is that now
I have the ability to recognize the behavior, ( something I was lacking
before), and stop it many times when its a thought and not even an action.
My relationship with my parents is still tense, and probably will
always be. Once you free yourself from this abusive pattern, its very hard
to put yourself back in a position to allow it. But that's OK, I have a
wife and children who are my priority. If my parents, and the rest of my
family fail to recognize the abusive pattern they live in, then I must
move on without them.
Anyway, just wanted to let you know that your site was a big help, and
to lend encouragement to anyone else who is or was verbally abusive.
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I wish you continued success.
My warmest wishes,