Comments: Broken Boards

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Saturday September 22, 2001
02:34 AM

Hi Doc, Sorry to hear about (and see) the problems you are having with the boards. I'd love to put my hand up for this but, as you know, a little knowledge is a dangerous thing, especially with people and computers. I certainly appreciate the work that goes into a site like this and I hope you can find some kind soul to help you out. Cheers...Robert

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Saturday September 22, 2001
08:11 AM

Dear Doc, I'm sorry, I can't be of any help because I don't have the knowledge required. I hope however you will find somebody who does. Fran  Between you, me, and Trubble, that makes three of us who haven't a clue! Giggle!

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Saturday September 22, 2001
08:24 AM

Dear Dr Irene, Is it possible for a hacker to cause these problems? I don't know much about websites and the Internet. Also, didn't have a clue about the cost of this site, but it is certainly believable. Thank you for all that you have done to help so many people. I would be willing to pay a fee for the site, but worry about those who get here from computers other than their own. There must be someone out there with the skills to help. Sis

Unlikely on this server Sis, though anything is possible.

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Saturday September 22, 2001
09:14 AM

Hi, Doc, I'm sorry for the board problems. I am not a programmer, so I can't help that way, but I will send a donation. If it weren't for your site and your boards, I wouldn't have figured out so much of what was going on in my marriage. Last September-December was living hell for me and my children. Because of the support here, I was able to gather my resources and safely leave my abuser. A donation is the least I can do. Thank you so much for all of your hard work on our behalf. Rocky [rocky]  Rocky, thank you for your support - as well as the help you provide moderating and advising!

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Saturday September 22, 2001
09:27 AM

This is truly unfortunate. IF it had not been for your board-& the wonderful support I've received here from my new friends, I would have been in a much different and difficult place. For many of us here, your board, Dr. Irene, IS A LIFESAVER. I am only a short time member but have benefited enormously and am forever grateful for the advice and guidance received. I'm sorry I am not a computer expert- are we certain the glitches are from Nimba virus? I also heard Nimba doesn't affect Netscape? Thank you- I really HOPE this isn't the end of the board! Sandra

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Saturday September 22, 2001
09:55 AM

ps. Dr. Irene, sorry I can't give financial -At this time, my Abuser cut me off financial from ALL the joint family accounts/funds last February-until present. I have no access to funds at this time, sorry. All I can give is my support. Sandra  That's fine Sandra. Thanks for taking the time to post this.

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Saturday September 22, 2001
12:12 PM

I wrote to you in a separate email before I noticed that we could send messages here. These boards are truly life saving, and I am willing to do whatever I can to help. I don't know asp, but I do know some other languages. I just finished a master's degree in software engineering. I think I can help. If I can't, I will say so! But I would love to try. Maggie  You're on! Next time there's trubble, you get a help call! Thanks Maggie. By the way gang, Maggie's contribution got the boards back up today.

Also, I promise to start learning asp! (Ulp!) Doc

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Sunday September 23, 2001

This is such an essential link to so many isolated and desparate victims, please don't cut off what may well be their only link to sanity. Are there grants you could apply for through battered women's organizations? Can you ask Bill Gates to fund this life-saving service? Can you seek out some rich benefactor?

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Sunday September 23, 2001

Dear Dr. I., I'ld love to send you a donation, this site has helped me and so many others. I have a problem though with the form, since my computer tells me there are unsecured items oin the site. Is there any other way I can send you money? Please let me know. Thanks again for all the work (and funds) you put in. Maybe we should try to open a trust or whatever it's called for this site and also donate money to (wo)men who are trying to get out of an abusive situation, but find it hard becasue of money problems. I am really serious, I just have no clue how to do it. Love and hugs, aj

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Sunday September 23, 2001

we just have to keep these boards up..maybe if those of us who cna contribute do what we can and those who can't get covered that way...I like AJ's idea though I can't see how we can work it...any ideas anyone? Will send something as soon as I get paid...love Jay

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Thursday September 27, 2001

Perhaps you should look into those pop-up ads. I realize that they are somewhat annoying, but they do help pay for web-sites. I know nothing about Snitz or even what an asp is, (that was Cleopatra's undoing). I just learned the other day what an html was and that I worked with html based materials at my job - duh! Good luck. Unfortunately, I am in no position to offer you monetary assistace. I wish that I could, but most weeks the amount going out exceeds that which comes in. Kris

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Wednesday October 03, 2001

Dear Doctor Irene, Your boards and information have been so important in my life. The support and information have helped me to reclaim my spirit. Your advice about not acting ugly to get back was hard to accept but absolutely necessary. I appreciate that you chastise as well as encourage. I would like to help with your boards. I was going to make a monetary contribution but found that the only way is through credit card and my husband owns all the credit cards. Is there another way to make a contribution? I am a Certified Network Engineer, if I can help with any technicalities, I would be willing to give it a try. Cathy

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Friday October 05, 2001

Hi Dr. Irene- I just had to thank you for having your website. It is so informative and posting to the boards have been so so helpful. I am so grateful for your Cat and Yak boxes and all the people who have responded and helped me in times of trouble. I wish I could have sent you more money. But I thought at least in the meantime this may help. Thank you again. Fem4000

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Thursday January 31, 2002

I'd be happy to provide any computer security assistance.

Greg.

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Tuesday March 05, 2002

Hi All,

I use the works computer and just know enough to get by. The boards have been a tool for me and many others whereby we can share what is bothering us and seek support but also help in forming a plan of action.

I do not have a credit card. Right now my ex cannot pay me so I am funding everything myself and living off my overdraft. Children are so expensive.

Though I hope that my contribution in the form of supporting others will go a little way to helping.

I think Doc is the best and is so to the point.

Thanks DOC and Trubble, and all you moderators that give so much of your time

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Wednesday March 20, 2002

Do you look at the comments left on this web page on your site: 

http://www.drirene.com/forms/comments_to_judge.htm

The last one, left in April of 2001, is probably why there are no additional postings. Hmmmm... Can't do it all. But thanks for pointing it out. It's gone now. Any problem posts, please feel free to alert me: Doc@drirene.com

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Friday July 04, 2003

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Tuesday April 06, 2004

Hi all. Sharon here. remember me? I used to post about Dr. Psycho over 2 years ago!! I've been reading the old archives and *wow* have things changed!! Well, the sad side is that my mom finally passed on last March (2003) from cancer. It was really hard to see her go but I know she is in a better place. She suffered so much! Thank you all for your kind words when I was posting back in 2001 - but yes, I finally had to go through the grieving process -- and still am. So, its been an interesting year. And the other news is that I still have Dr. Psycho in my life. Things have changed though, where there is no more crazymaking between us. It seems as though he just got tired. I can't describe it other than the cat & mouse game between us just got boring. So, now we are just friends - and good friends - but the rest of the stuff has been dulled from so many control dramas - it just all fizzled out. After my mom died, we broke up for awhile, then I started dating somebody else, who got very clingy to me, and that didn't work out too well for me because I was dealing with the grieving process - plus, I don't do well with somebody who is very, very emotionally needy. (Yes, I'm more 'stand-up' kinda woman than I used to be). Dr. Psycho and I still live in the same neighborhood, so things got friendly again - I layed down expectations, rules and boundaries with him. Its been now 6 months - and every now and then when I see that he gets even close to that same ol' crazymaking behavior, I remind him of what I expect from him. It works - but it is work because I have to remind myself that we still are in different realities (reality I/II). I'll tell you, it has really increased my self-esteem and I often wonder if I have changed into his reality now, because, quite frankly, after my mom died, I have less tolerance for any crazymaking behaviors from anyone! -Sharon