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Tuesday February 04, 2003

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Wednesday February 05, 2003

Good luck, Steven. It sounds like you're on the road to recovery. I hope it works out for you.

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Sunday February 16, 2003

I have a long,sad and one of the most bizare story to tell about my life and particulary the last 2 years. Is it possible to tell my story in segments?

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Saturday March 15, 2003

Steven, you seem like a nice guy - best wishes.

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Wednesday March 26, 2003

good for you for seeing what part you had in creating the problems in you life. that's where I want to be - not taking all the blame, but admitting where I do things that only make things worse. Your story was very encouraging to me! best wishes and keep up the good work!

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Friday April 11, 2003

Steven's story brought my own situation to light... very similar situation. This site is great and is beginning to help me... and his story helped me greatly. Thank you.

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Monday April 14, 2003

What is the correlation about him always dating womemn who lived at home? Author implies it is obvious, but I am new at this. What does he mean? Thanks for explaining.

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Wednesday April 16, 2003

This is the author of the post. In answer to the previous post on Monday April 14, 2003, the fact that these women all were living with their mothers could imply many things. First, is the codependency on my part. If a woman is living by herself, then she doesn't 'need me' to provide for her. For me, it was just a matter of control "MY HOUSE", "MY RULES", etc. Also, women who are living with their parents tend to have lower self-esteem because they either have financial problems or other dependency problems. Thanks to all who responded to this post. I wish I could say that we have ridden off into the sunset together but things are not going so well. She has stopped going to coucelling and has started drinking again and has become abusive. As of yesterday, I told her it was over, again. It just makes things hard when she has a son that calls me Dad but I have to be strong and take the high road - not easy.

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Saturday April 19, 2003

I think you've done a wonderful thing for yourself!!! We recovering co-dependants need keep reminding ourselves just how great WE are! I recognized your revelation of your own Personal Power in myself. How awesome, to finally feel powerful and in control of our own lives! I am having to deal with my ex over kid issues, and need to keep in mind how right it was to end the relationship, and not get sucked back into the whirlpool. I hope that your relationship works out, but BE CAUTIOUS! Abusers have such a sneaky way of looking nice while they wait for the right moment to zap you again! Love and Peace, Butterfly

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Sunday April 20, 2003

Steve, I hope you and your ex-fiancee make it. But if you don't, the most important lesson of all is you have found your Self through all your trials and tribulations you've gone through in your life. You are truly what is indicative of a man and I commend you for it. CC

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Thursday April 24, 2003

I love Steven's story. What a courageous person he is.I work in the "Rape/Domestic Abuse" field and I am thrilled to read a story like this from a man. I suspect that he is not as rare as the illusion of what men SHOULD be would have us believe. Thank you Steven for your honesty and the inspiration you gave me from sharing your story. Keep up the good work...if you continue on this path there is a plethera of rewards waiting for you! Jennifer

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Thursday April 24, 2003

I love Steven's story. What a courageous person he is.I work in the "Rape/Domestic Abuse" field and I am thrilled to read a story like this from a man. I suspect that he is not as rare as the illusion of what men SHOULD be would have us believe. Thank you Steven for your honesty and the inspiration you gave me from sharing your story. Keep up the good work...if you continue on this path there is a plethera of rewards waiting for you! Jennifer

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Thursday April 24, 2003

I love Steven's story. What a courageous person he is.I work in the "Rape/Domestic Abuse" field and I am thrilled to read a story like this from a man. I suspect that he is not as rare as the illusion of what men SHOULD be would have us believe. Thank you Steven for your honesty and the inspiration you gave me from sharing your story. Keep up the good work...if you continue on this path there is a plethera of rewards waiting for you! Jennifer

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Thursday April 24, 2003

I love Steven's story. What a courageous person he is.I work in the "Rape/Domestic Abuse" field and I am thrilled to read a story like this from a man. I suspect that he is not as rare as the illusion of what men SHOULD be would have us believe. Thank you Steven for your honesty and the inspiration you gave me from sharing your story. Keep up the good work...if you continue on this path there is a plethera of rewards waiting for you! Jennifer

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Thursday April 24, 2003

I love Steven's story. What a courageous person he is.I work in the "Rape/Domestic Abuse" field and I am thrilled to read a story like this from a man. I suspect that he is not as rare as the illusion of what men SHOULD be would have us believe. Thank you Steven for your honesty and the inspiration you gave me from sharing your story. Keep up the good work...if you continue on this path there is a plethera of rewards waiting for you! Jennifer

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Thursday April 24, 2003

I love Steven's story. What a courageous person he is.I work in the "Rape/Domestic Abuse" field and I am thrilled to read a story like this from a man. I suspect that he is not as rare as the illusion of what men SHOULD be would have us believe. Thank you Steven for your honesty and the inspiration you gave me from sharing your story. Keep up the good work...if you continue on this path there is a plethera of rewards waiting for you! Jennifer

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Thursday April 24, 2003

I love Steven's story. What a courageous person he is.I work in the "Rape/Domestic Abuse" field and I am thrilled to read a story like this from a man. I suspect that he is not as rare as the illusion of what men SHOULD be would have us believe. Thank you Steven for your honesty and the inspiration you gave me from sharing your story. Keep up the good work...if you continue on this path there is a plethera of rewards waiting for you! Jennifer

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Thursday April 24, 2003

I love Steven's story. What a courageous person he is.I work in the "Rape/Domestic Abuse" field and I am thrilled to read a story like this from a man. I suspect that he is not as rare as the illusion of what men SHOULD be would have us believe. Thank you Steven for your honesty and the inspiration you gave me from sharing your story. Keep up the good work...if you continue on this path there is a plethera of rewards waiting for you! Jennifer

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Thursday May 01, 2003

All of this came about because I loved her and wanted to give her what she wanted. Guys are so often like this... A wonderful trait - when tempered by sense of Self and boundaries. I wish you would, from a woman's point of view, say more on this. signed a man that is a giver

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Thursday May 01, 2003

I am no expert but I believe that my ex girlfriend was narcissistic. She also, at age 41 still lives with her parents,pays no rent and shares in no domestic responsibilities. She had a way of having everyone in her life feeling sorry for her and then providing for her needs. She has been in banckruptcy twice has horrible credit history, no money in the bank and spends like she is a rockefeller. In retrospect, being that I was generous, understanding of her problems, supportive in her goals had nothing to do with her choice of me as a mate. Her choice is one of survival and who can provide for her the most and the best for as little effort as possible on her part. After a year breakup she called to tell me of her NEW love. She seemed very happy and from the sounds of it, he seemed very well off, has a good job and is very responsible. Seeing it from an outsider point of view provides a much clearer perspective of how things were with her and I. I wish him lots of luck..he will surely need it!

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Wednesday June 25, 2003

Dear Dr. Irene I love my boyfriend very much. He is 25 and i am 17. Sometimes he gets very agresive and hits me some times. But its only once in a while. He does not do it every day or every week. He is an ex marine. I know he has been through alot i just want to know what i can do to help him. Plus i do not want him to hit me anymore, he does not beat me but everyonce in awhile he will smack me. Is it my fault? I get very jeolous. should i not say anything? Maybe thats what sets him off. I am just really in a rut and i need some advise.

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Wednesday June 25, 2003

Dear Dr. Irene I love my boyfriend very much. He is 25 and i am 17. Sometimes he gets very agresive and hits me some times. But its only once in a while. He does not do it every day or every week. He is an ex marine. I know he has been through alot i just want to know what i can do to help him. Plus i do not want him to hit me anymore, he does not beat me but everyonce in awhile he will smack me. Is it my fault? I get very jeolous. should i not say anything? Maybe thats what sets him off. I am just really in a rut and i need some advise.

 

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