Sunday, April 25, 1999I really need your help.
My husband of 8 years has just left me for my best friend a month ago. I realize now he
has been verbally abusive for our whole relationship. Now that he has moved out, he
continues to want to have sex with me and I did let him a few times, he continues to call
me about 5 -6 times a day and comes over at every chance he gets to criticize me and tell me
the proper way of doing things. So far I am mostly strong but looking after our 2 children
on my own has started to burn me out and I am not able to cope any more. My self esteem is
going down again. I need some practical steps I can take to take control and stop his
verbal abuse. Please help.
You need more help than
I can give. This is a very tough time for you and it sounds as though you have mixed
emotions over what is going on. Practical Steps: Get some support! Reach out to
friends and family. Talk to your pastor or rabbi. Get a good therapist and/or support
group - now! Also, you may want to talk to your internist about some medication
options if you feel you are having difficulty coping. (Under the circumstances, who
wouldn't have difficulty coping?)
My
thoughts are with you,
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