Two days later I received a call from my bank and the circumstances were rather odd. They were calling because some woman found a box of new checks (the ones I had ordered and were waiting for) in the middle of a country road. She turned them in at a local police station for me to retrieve them at a later date. I followed up on this and the post office confirmed that they were delivered to my old home address where IT is living rather than to my P.O box. So, it was 99% likely that he pitched the box of checks in the country rather than putting them in one of our children's backpacks to kindly send them to me, or even have his lawyer send them to mine at the least.
Fast forward to today....I received an email from IT offering to exchange the children on Mother's Day in the afternoon so that I could see them that day (he has them this coming weekend) I sent back a very Plain-Jane email response stating that I would like to see them and told him where I would meet him and when. Here is what I received from him after that;
J,Is there some reason why we can't address each other by our names and be civil with each other,do you really feel this is in the best interest of our children to act this way. I'm truly sorry for how this has ended up but this is not going to be good for our children in the long run if we can't reasonably get along, I'm sorry but we have a lot of years ahead of us where we will have to deal with each other as it relates to our children's welfare. You may want to act like I don't exist but I do and I plan on being around for awhile so this is only the beginning and it's only going to get worse if this pettiness continues .I really don't want to give them up on days that they are supposed to be with me so would it kill you to acknowledge the consideration shown to you that wasn't extended to me on Easter and won't be on the weekend of D4's birthday. Why don't you tell your lawyer what it is you want so I can move on with my life like you have, try to remember that we once loved each other, even though we don't now.
He seems upset that I wasn't grateful enough for his offer. It just is funny to me that he thinks my lack of emotion towards him is petty, when he threw my checks out for anyone to get their hands on, and he is so concerned about our children's welfare when he is the one screaming at me in front of our children.
I am noticing a new pattern with him, when we get somewhat close to a court date that involves a possible decision regarding custody, he changes his tune and tries to sound like the mature adult in our relationship. He must be getting nervous about what might be decided by the court, this is the second time he has asked me what I want, and the last time this happened was right before a trial date as well.
I know that the court sessions are wearing on him, he HATES to be in the presence of authority and can't deal with the stress at all. This is my strategy, I want it to wear him down, if he knows what I want he will fight tooth and nail to make sure i don't get it. At the same time, he knows he is a monster and is afraid of becoming exposed. I have truth on my side and patience. I hope it pays off.
Edited by hedoesntcare, 10 May 2012 - 12:58 AM.