Posted 10 April 2012 - 04:40 AM
So what can i do? is there any way to tackle withholding?
Posted 10 April 2012 - 08:14 AM
Posted 10 April 2012 - 02:14 PM
Posted 10 April 2012 - 03:26 PM
One thing though. Your mention of sleeping in a separate bedroom made me curious. Obviously some couples do sleep in separate bedrooms for one reason or another, not necessarily because the couple in question are estranged. But I've never had the foggiest idea how many couples do that. It's one of those things where "none of us know how the other half lives"! So out of curiosity I looked it up on the Web, and I found this page, which told me that according to the National Sleep Foundation, 23 percent of couples sleep apart. The reasons can include loud snoring and other sleep disorders, incompatible sleep schedules, or disparate preferences for the sleeping environment.
So if sleeping in the guest bedroom does make this miserable marriage more tolerable for you, it's just as Dawn said: there's no need to worry about what others might think, when nearly one couple in four is doing the same!
Posted 11 April 2012 - 04:05 AM
@Hedoesn't care That is a very poignant song. I have never heard of that singer. She is lovely and a great voice.
@Dawn and Kilroy. I am afraid in a way. i don't know why. I think it's because i would be doing something that could be thrown in my face at a later date. Sometimes it is just so wearying trying to second guess.
Posted 11 April 2012 - 06:40 AM
I guess my point is, he may well something say to you or maybe he won't. If he doesn't say anything he may secretly be angry and maybe that's what you're afraid of? All I can say, is do what makes you feel comfortable. Take care of yourself. You could say something to him but I don't know where you are in the relationship. Are you staying in? You know a conversation about his withdrawal is likely to go nowhere. But if you move to the other room it may start the conversation anyway...I sometimes would do things like that just to get his attention so then I could explode at what an a*s he was being. The result? Nothing new. It was always my fault
So I kept sleeping in the other room, ignored his comments, and was always thankful I had another space to go to for "rest".
Posted 12 April 2012 - 05:00 AM
Posted 12 April 2012 - 12:18 PM
I say sleep where you want to, you know he would. (((hugs)))
Posted 12 April 2012 - 02:00 PM
The only thing...
If you'd be more comfortable sleeping in the spare bedroom, don't worry about what others might think about his nasty remarks. You can say " don't mind him, I'm just a very light sleeper these days".
Dawn, I don't think she should lie to anyone. By saying that, she covering for him and his unreasonable behavior. Even just saying she is more comfortable in the spare room is honest and doesn't cover for him.
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