Try to make this short. Husband is bipolar, unmedicated. Stable for the most part but still impossible to live with. Periods of overt and covert abuse, his version of the honeymoon period, same old stuff in a 6 year cycle. Except this time I got myself into a counselor and I am getting stronger and making strides to leave. I have "left" several times and always went back. This time I am getting the professional help I need.
So my current serious issue is that I have a 5 year old son. The most amazing child ever. My husband has a history of being very rough with him, but lately, 3 times in the last week he has done some "covert" physical abuse. unless I am just reading too much into it. This stuff has happened in the past, but with it occurring 3 times in the last week my momma bear alarm is violently going off.
This week, son gets up from couch, husband playfully pushes him, son goes flying into the toy box. crying, runs to me, bruised up face. 2nd incident. son was giving husband a notebook and ended up be too rough giving it too him and hit husand in face. didnt hurt him, but about 6 minutes later husband whipped the notebook right at my son and it hit his hand and made a scratch, son screams and cries and runs to me. Later in the day son asks my mother why his daddy is so mean to him This brings us to last night. Both are playing around and when they are done he again pushes son and he goes flying back and hits the head REALLY hard. At this point I freak out and tell him to knock the asparagus off. I tell him that its not cute or funny and he is too rough with him. After each incident my son gets the big hug and apology. The problem is that these incidents happen throughout the years, starting around 2 or 3. there was a big injury and a busted lip from one of these "pushings"
Is this typical father behavior or is this a more insidious form of child abuse. Please help me with this before I go out of my mind. I have a therapy appointment on friday, I cant wait that long.
Edited by myohmy, 27 November 2011 - 09:57 PM.