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#1 fandango

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Posted 18 April 2010 - 06:00 PM

I just have to get this out. DH was verbally abusive today. I called him on it.

Guess who's sulking and playing the victim now? Yep, DH. He verbally abuses me, then I'm the bad guy for telling him to back off.

So typical!!!

#2 Lambchop

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Posted 18 April 2010 - 06:19 PM

When my H did this..I would then continue on after a period..ask him to help with the dishes or watch TV or something. You have said your peace, so now show him you want to move on.

What do you think?
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#3 grammie

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Posted 18 April 2010 - 06:37 PM

When my H did this..I would then continue on after a period..ask him to help with the dishes or watch TV or something. You have said your peace, so now show him you want to move on.

What do you think?
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I get this kind of crap all the time. Whatever you do don't allow yourself to get drawn into a big discussion on who was right and who was wrong and who is the victim and who isn't. Like fandango said, you have said your peace - there is nothing more to say. Engaging at this point will not help.

#4 fandango

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Posted 18 April 2010 - 07:57 PM

Well, he went to bed without saying goodnight. You're right grammie - I'm not going to let myself get sucked into a discussion about it. The best thing I can do is ignore him and hope he doesn't sulk for too long.

#5 Pebbles

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Posted 19 April 2010 - 10:47 PM

That's right - disengage. Don't let him suck you back into it!! It's the best thing you can do (very hard sometimes, I admit, but totally worth it).

Hugs to you,

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#6 pattycakes57

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Posted 20 April 2010 - 09:07 AM

The best thing I can do is ignore him and hope he doesn't sulk for too long.


Actually, IMHO, I think the "best" thing you can do is to ignore him and NOT CARE if he sulks at all!

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#7 claudifred

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Posted 20 April 2010 - 10:36 AM

Let him sulk. That's his choice.
Don't try to lure him out of it.

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Posted 21 April 2010 - 01:47 AM

i so agree w/ you pattycakes.
or you could be glad he is sulking, because he'll leave you alone! at least mine does. he withdraws just like he always has, to punish me. ha. it's a reward!




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