Whining in the Scriptures?
Posted 10 January 2008 - 08:08 PM
Posted 10 January 2008 - 09:36 PM
Foolish, Unclean Speech
Insensitivity/Lack of Compassion
Which, if any, of these would best define the whininess to which you refer? If you let me know, I'll post some verses the book recommends.
Posted 11 January 2008 - 01:53 PM
Basically I'm looking for biblical responses to my stbxh's whines, such as......
"You don't understand how hard I've been working to make money."
"I'm working so hard to pay these bills."
"I had such a terrible childhood."
"Oh my back hurts."
"Oh my neck hurts."
"So-and-so (business associate) was so mean to me today. You're just piling on after a hard day."
And my favorite whine -- after making ME sleep on couch for 8 months because HE wasn't man enough to apologize, "I feel reeeeally bad about you sleeping on the couch." (Not, "I'm sorry." or "Here honey. You have every right to be mad with me. You take the bed. I don't deserve it after how I've treated you.")
Just for the record, I am amazingly frugal. No matter how much money I save, it's never enough.
He whines to avoid any responsibility in the relationship. (Big surprise.)
Posted 11 January 2008 - 03:52 PM
1Cor:13 specifically vs 1-3
It speaks about doing things out of love, rather than other selfish reasons. It seems like your H is whining about not getting enough "praise" etc for the things he does, when it is supposed to be done without expectations of "repayment" or that a debt is owed. One is to do things because it is the loving thing to do rather than for personal gain.
Speaks about maturing as we age and behaving as a mature adult, rather than as a child. Childish people have childish expectations.
You could perhaps look for verses regarding gratitude as opposed to whining, because I believe that whining comes from an ungrateful heart.
I quickly googled bible: gratitude and this link came up:
Hope that helps!
Posted 11 January 2008 - 04:46 PM
lawlessness (lack of discipline)
These ideas are superbly unpacked in the book of Proverbs.
Don't look up the words (like in a dictionary) but rather, read the entire paragraphs on the topics/concepts.
What's also happening according to your scenario, your H is avoiding "accountability" to his wife. There is a mutual submission (gasp, m-u-t-u-a-l?) taught in Ephesians. This means a relational, reciprocal submission as co-equal managers of the household/marriage.
I hope this helps.
Posted 11 January 2008 - 06:12 PM
What's also happening according to your scenario, your H is avoiding "accountability" to his wife.
LOL! Thanks. I needed that lil' laff.
Speaking of accountability, I'm spending this whole week on duties for the business. Does he give me a salary??? Noooooo. I've done a lot for that business. Not a penny of salary. It would all go in to the same bank account and pay the same bills, but it would give me respect. Oh yeah-- and a little thing called tax deductions would be nice. (But he'd rather complain how's he's working so hard to pay taxes.)
That's for all the scriptures. Keep 'em coming.
It's a great way to respond to abuse. God said "My word will not return to Me void." Sometimes we don't know how on earth to respond to these folks. Turn up the volume on God's word. Let Him do the talking. Takes the burden off our shoulders.
For my yoke is easy and my burden is light."
Eeeek. He's baaaaack. Gotta scoot.
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