April 15, 2001
Do you remember the early days
of your relationship with your abuser? Were there personality traits
or incidents that you thought strange or felt uncomfortable with?
Things that, in retrospect, signaled the abusive turn your
relationship would take?
I am researching an article on avoiding relationships where
abuse may occur. Some of you may remember my posts on the
Yak as "Kujaku."
Looking back, I realize that I missed, dismissed, and explained away
behaviors and patterns that should have warned me to end the
relationship before the investment of considerable time and energy. I
am interested in learning of signs you wish you had heeded. What would
you advise a friend to look out for so that she (or he) would not
repeat your experiences? Dr. Irene has graciously permitted me to post
here on her site.
If you would be willing to share your story, please e-mail me at
identifying information will be used without your consent, but I would
appreciate your including your name and the best way for me to contact
you (e-mail, regular mail, or telephone).
Thank you for your help.
Mary; good work. I'm also tacking on a board you and others may
interact on regarding this topic. Keep up posted!
those of you choosing to post, please disguise your personal info! Doc