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Abusive Lady Asks for Support  

Abusive Lady Asks for Your Support

“Every problem contains within itself the seeds of its own solution.”
- Edward Somers

January 20, 2003

Hi,
My situation is no different. I drank too much on new years eve, blacked out, and destroyed my life. I hit my husband, broke most of the things in my home, insulted his family, and honestly only remember bits and pieces.

I know my husband and I have had problems in the past and have split up and tried to make it work. We have been together for five years and just last year we got married despite of what our families said - and it was great for a while. We both knew we need therapy or counseling to make our lives together stronger and to be there for each other.

My husband decided to end our marriage he also has fired me from a business we started together, changed the checking acct., and wants me out.

I really am trying to cope with this. I am in therapy for anger management. It's really hard to cope with because I never planned for this to happen and never thought the next day when I awoke how much damage I had done. I feel hurt and very sorry for all I did and realize that I need help. What's hard is that I lost my job, my self esteem, and I am still very much in love with my husband. We have been through a lot together and always had each other to lean on. I

lost my friends, my family, my job, my sense of belonging. I am trying to be ok and don't know how. I have been looking for a job and apartment, and it's really hard. I am paying a big price for what I did. I am so up and down and very hopeless. I have no one to talk to and that makes it harder.

Might someone have some encouraging words to help me believe in myself? I am a beautiful woman and I feel ugly embarrassed and back stabbed by the man I will always love .

Very sad... But back stabbed? I'm not sure about that... Nevertheless, I am sure you need help! Please, in addition to your anger management, get yourself some individual therapy, and see a psychiatrist for your depression. You may have more than just depression getting in your way, preventing you from living fully. And join us for support in The CatBox Forum.

Hang in there! Doc

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