September 14, 2002Well I
don't really know where to start. Hmm.
We met when I was 15 and now I am 42. He has always
been unfaithful or at least as far back as I can remember. I had my
issues of infidelity as well in recent years. Perhaps this sounds
like an excuse but my dad was murdered when I was 12 and I think I
was looking for love. Fortunately, the person did love me. But back
to my spouse. He is a selfish, lying snake.
He was abusive to my sons, and I thought it was a
father's duty to whip his kids. When it was excessive or so I
perceived, I intervened as I wouldn't knowingly allow any man to
abuse my children. Later I realized it was abuse. He abused me
too, but only verbally. I don't say only to minimize verbal abuse
but I just mean not physical.
Anyway, after 27 years I decided I have to leave. I
left 10 years ago but thought my sons needed their father. Now one
son is estranged and thinks I'm the villain and the other is in a
gang. : (
My daughter is doing great so far, but she is only
14 and hates her father with a passion. I try not to encourage this
as this will always be her father even after he becomes my ex.
He has no interest in whatever interests me. He has
never been supportive when I had tough challenges to face. Like
recently when my mom had her 2nd amputation and he went on
vacation. He came back the day before my birthday - and forgot my
birthday. My lover has been there for me as a husband and has
provided for my children even though he got no outward recognition.
I believe this is morally wrong but he has been more of a friend
than anything, so God will judge me but humans can't!
Anyway, I am so glad I found your site. It really
helped me to understand narcissistic behavior. Thank you Dr. Irene
and all the people brave enough to discuss this subject! Anisa
Thank you Anisa for sharing your
story. You've certainly had your challenges! I hope the days ahead
are brighter for you and yours. Warmest regards, Doc
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